You don't need to apologize. Your relationship isn't my business, and shouldn't be either. What happens between you and Father Hansa is between you and him.
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And the Lord, I suppose, but that's what you get for dating a priest.
Not worried, no. Father Hansa has always been very capable at handling himself. I know that.
It's just I've known him since I came to Kaisou over seven years ago. In some ways he's been like another father to me. You could even say it was thanks to him and the rest of his parish that I could believe that a loving and caring God could possibly exist.
So I suppose when that was sprung on me, in the moment it felt like my worldview was being drawn into question.
Then the reasoning behind that much you'll have to ask Hansa about directly--this whole thing was mostly his idea rather than mine. But I'm not out to get him to break any sacred oaths or anything like that.
Truthfully, I have no idea what he could be thinking. But I trust he has his boundaries on what that means.
I don't plan to ask about his reasoning. Like I said, your relationship is between him and you. There's no reason to answer to me.
As far as I'm concerned, the church has much greater crimes to answer for than a priest dating another adult. I have a lifetime of memories that prove that much. But I also know the church is not without its politics. If Father Hansa crosses the wrong person, something like this could put him under investigation.
So if that happens, I rather pretend I don't know anything, to avoid incriminating my father. And it's easier to do that if I don't actually know anything.
That's fair reasoning. Probably the smartest approach, too--there's safety in secrecy when it comes to matters like this.
But it's as you say--he's essentially your father, and I'm aware you and I have a habit of conflicting at times. So I just wouldn't want you to be worried, if hypothetically you were and there was anything I can do to set your mind at ease.
Hell if I know what that is, but far be it from me to question matters of taste.
And yeah, I got that impression a while ago. The Church back home is just as dangerous as our Association, if not more so. Even if I wanted to--and obviously I don't--I know better than to cross a priest.
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And the Lord, I suppose, but that's what you get for dating a priest.
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Are you worried about him?
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Not worried, no. Father Hansa has always been very capable at handling himself. I know that.
It's just I've known him since I came to Kaisou over seven years ago. In some ways he's been like another father to me. You could even say it was thanks to him and the rest of his parish that I could believe that a loving and caring God could possibly exist.
So I suppose when that was sprung on me, in the moment it felt like my worldview was being drawn into question.
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I'd just like clarity before I wind up putting my foot in my mouth again at some point.
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Truthfully, I have no idea what he could be thinking. But I trust he has his boundaries on what that means.
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As far as I'm concerned, the church has much greater crimes to answer for than a priest dating another adult. I have a lifetime of memories that prove that much. But I also know the church is not without its politics. If Father Hansa crosses the wrong person, something like this could put him under investigation.
So if that happens, I rather pretend I don't know anything, to avoid incriminating my father. And it's easier to do that if I don't actually know anything.
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But it's as you say--he's essentially your father, and I'm aware you and I have a habit of conflicting at times. So I just wouldn't want you to be worried, if hypothetically you were and there was anything I can do to set your mind at ease.
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And he is very capable, so if you do something to hurt him you'll be the one to regret it.
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And yeah, I got that impression a while ago. The Church back home is just as dangerous as our Association, if not more so. Even if I wanted to--and obviously I don't--I know better than to cross a priest.
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As long as you're aware of the lion's den you're stepping into.
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These things come with risks, I think Hansa and I both understand that well.
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Mm, I suppose you do.